A Very Happy Hysterectomy – Fe’s Story
Hi Ladies (and gentlemen) I had a TAH (total abdominal hysterectomy) and BSO (bilaterial salpingo oophorectomy) on 3rd December 2012. As with many of us my route to a hysterectomy was long, painful and at times frustrating. I had been suffering with heavy periods for some years and had tried, unsuccessfully, to get some sort of relief with my symptoms.
Following an ultra sound scan, I was diagnosed with a large ovarian cyst. I was then referred to a consultant gynaecologist, who was very reluctant to perform a hysterectomy. After several appointments with my GP and re-referral’s to the hospital, I asked to be referred to another consultant. I was admitted to hospital on 3rd December for the above operation. I have nothing but praise for the treatment I received. Everyone was fabulous. My new consultant was so kind, gentle and professional. I was given all the information I needed to make an informed choice and at this time we both agreed a hysterectomy was the best decision for me.
I have a very low pain threshold and can’t take morphine so a pca pump was a non starter! Plus I am the worlds biggest coward when it comes to pain! It did hurt when I first came round but after that the rest of the day and night seemed to pass in a blur. By Tuesday I was able to eat and drink, so I could take ibuprofen again, which was the best pain killer for me.
By Wednesday I was up and about – sore, but nowhere near as painful as I thought it would be. Everything went very smoothly with no complications. I came home on the Friday.
Within a week I was out and about – a short walk to the local shop was exhausting but manageable. I was amazed at how much I could do so soon after. I was sensible and have a very caring partner who nagged me constantly about doing too much! I even managed to cook Christmas dinner!
Four months on and I am back at work, still tired but am so happy with the results of my surgery. I am pain free, period free and feel like I can actually start to live again after years of debilitating pain and bleeding.
I am having a few problems with the menopause – it hit me like a brick on the 1st January, with all the usual symptoms – severe night sweats, mood swings, depression, joint pains. Although it is difficult, I try to remind myself that I am very lucky to have had such a great experience with my surgery.
If you are reading this and thinking something along the lines of “who does she think she is?? Superwoman???”! Please let me explain that I was 48 when I had my operation. I have type 2 diabetes, arthritis, hypothyroid and depression. I am also obese – one reason why my first consultant didn’t want to perform a hysterectomy. I had lost some weight, having being diagnosed with diabetes, but will always struggle with food.What I wanted to say here was that I have read some very sad stories on this site, and I know how lucky I am to have been treated so well both in hospital and at home.
So what have I found out about all this? Ladies, we are all different, unique individuals. Although we may be having the same or similar types of surgery, be kind to yourselves. Your body and your mind will heal in their own way and at their own pace. There is no right or wrong way to feel or to recover – just take time to find your own way through it. And don’t be hard on yourself – take your time to find what works for you. And if you’re not happy with the way your treated, speak up. You wouldn’t take your car to a garage where you didn’t trust the mechanic, so why put your body in the hands of someone you aren’t comfortable with?
And to Linda – thank you so much for the 101 Handy Hints book – it really did help. As did the fabulous, if less than glamorous support pants. The nurses loved the book. And I still wear the support pants when I go for a long walk or a trip to the gym – my scar is still a little sore at times. Plus they keep the cold out – very important during the long Cumbrian winter!! So, that’s why I have called my story “A Very Happy Hysterectomy” and I hope yours will be too.
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