When is it OK to have sex after a hysterectomy?

When you have a hysterectomy you will have internal wounds that require healing. These will be around the neck of the vagina or just above the cervix, depending on what was removed during your surgery. Even if you have a vaginal hysterectomy, these wounds will need to heal.

Sexual intercourse is not recommended until these wounds have completely healed, this can take around six weeks. If you have been given a follow-up appointment with your hospital it would be wise to wait until you have been examined; if you have not been given an appointment with your hospital, then making an appointment with your GP to have a check-up would be advisable.

The reason you need to wait until healing has taken place is because there is a risk of infection to the wound and damage to the stitches and newly forming skin.

You might find this post about managing your sexual health post hysterectomy helpful to read as well.

Linda Parkinson-Hardman

Transformational counsellor, coach and women's health advocate. Professionally I'm an information scientist who specialises in change management, culture change and adoption of digital technologies in large enterprises and organisations. I am a writer and author of nine books to date, and I've edited a further seven; phew what a lot for a Thursday afternoon :-)

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27 Responses

  1. Ruthie Gooch says:

    ditto

  2. Emily says:

    Pat its been 18 days till I had my csection/hysterectomy and I had sex with my husband. I haven’t experienced no pain no nothing just the guilt as well. I was hoping you could respond back to me and let me know if later you experienced any pain or infections? I’m too worried ?

  3. Lady J says:

    Same here I’m 47years old I had a TAH my sex drive have went from 0 to 100 I gave in to my husband at 4 1/2 weeks he tried to stay away but it was me…. I felt really bad afterwards because I had a little bleeding and a little cramping praying I didn’t need to call my doctor I would have been so embarrassed couple hours later I was fine

  4. Lou says:

    Ok, so I am 3 weeks post op from full hysterectomy and desperate for sex but I’m going to wait until 6 weeks ??

  5. Pat says:

    I’m 24 day out of my abdominal hysterectomy and today I had sex I feel ok no pain just the guilt of not waiting my 8 weeks what do I do should I just wait if anything happens?

  6. Trish says:

    I just had sex with my partner who is pretty big it’s been 3 weeks 5 days but there is a puddle of blood in my bed and it hurts to sit down it all hurts what do I do. I am scared to go to doc or tell him I had sex

  7. Lucia says:

    Its 12wks post hysterectomy,so last nighti tried having sex,but I started bleeding and now i’m experiencing slight lower abdominal pain,should I b worried

  8. Gina says:

    Laparoscopic assisted partial yesterday. My Dr is super conservative. She had me try everything for about 5 years before agreeing to a hysterectomy. She says nothing vaginal for 12 weeks. Surgery was perfect, no bleeding I’m walking around. I have a vacation planned in 6 weeks with my BF who I only see every few weeks to begin with. I feel she is being overly cautious. Other than the anemia I have no issues. No diabetes, no high blood pressure. Any thoughts?

  9. Karen says:

    My exact experience – I am 2 wks out today and we have played around since day 5 ? – was happy to know orgasm was still easy to reach. Ready for sex but my doc said 8 wks – hoping at my 4 wk check up he lowers that!!!

  10. Amber says:

    I’m 27 y/o with 3 prior c-sections. I had total abdominal hysterectomy on 7/8 and went for my post op checkup yesterday at 3wk 4days post op. My GYN said no intercourse for 8 more weeks until he sees me again!!! I’m dying over here. I am diabetic (type 1) so, I know healing is slower but, GEEEEEZ! Does anyone have any experience with a similar situation? I only waited 10-14days after each c-section. I’ve felt great haven’t had any bleeding or discharge since I left the hospital 2nd day post op.

  11. Andrea says:

    I had my lsh on 5.23.16. Went for my post op checkup today. My Dr cleared me for sex. Is only been 3 1/2 weeks. I guess I’ll see how I feel in the morning. ?

  12. Kassie says:

    Same here.. I’m @40yrs old, pretty healthy other than the heavy bleeding, and abnormal periods.
    I had a partial abdominal hysterectomy 06/07/16….my one week check up is tomorrow and I am already going to try to get my gynecologist to narrow down a time frame for me. I’ve immediately stopped bleeding the day of the operation, minimal pain, the only pain medications that I took were a Tylenol and Motrin combination. And to be quite honest, I’ve found gratification by self stimulation, nothing rigorous of course. I’m quite happy to say that my libido is intact and still high, WHEW!!!!!!!

  13. Kasey says:

    I’m not sure how this all works however I had total hysterectomy 4 and a half weeks ago feel really good have both ovaries my post op final check is in a week and 2 days but I find…..this is blunt…..I want to have sex super bad with the hubby more than ever before I need encouragement to stay strong because I feel so good I’m thinking of trying it

  14. tiffany says:

    I had my hysterectomy November 23,2015 I had sex for New years. A little pain and some bleeding.. Now I’m nervous that I have reopened something.

  15. Lori says:

    Ladonna

    How long did you bleed for? Did you experience any other issues after having sex? I had decided after 4.5 weeks light spotting and a little burning sensation. I’m kind of freaking out.

  16. Ladonna says:

    I also had sex after surgery about 4 weeks couldn’t take it anymore..? I had no pain but I did have bleeding so that has scared me a little. Did you find out why from your doc? I go see mine on Dec 9th kinda scared cause he don’t play around

  17. Melissa says:

    Hysterectomy PO 4.5 weeks I gave in and had sex. I am not having any pain but did experience bleeding. Anyone!??

  18. Jean buck says:

    I had a vaginal hysterectomy a week ago, caught an infection in hospital and am now working at getting myself back on track again so your website is helping sort out what are normal pains or not. My left breast is going crazy at the moment, terribly painful when I am asleep on my back. I wondered whether anyone else had this problem? Also, I have been told I will have to wait 6 months to have sex! (The leaflets said 6 weeks). Anyone else had this problem/

  19. What an interesting question and not one I think I have a good answer for. My only comment would be that as laughing is likely to be painful then an orgasm might be too …!

  20. Cursory4B says:

    The leaflets talk about ‘having sex’ presumably to refer to intercourse, which I recognise is a bit vigorous for after an operation… but what about gentler forms of sexual gratification? Is there a time period after which it’s ok to have an orgasm or does this make ructions through the internal organs? Cheers!

  21. Some women do report that it can take a good 12 – 24 months to feel fully recovered after a hysterectomy Eunice.

  22. eunice says:

    i have total hysterectomy on 6/7/2013. am always tired in the evening times and always very weak.

  23. If you have an ovary or take HRT then the endometriosis will be likely to return as it’s oestrogen dependent, so it’s worth bearing that in mind Arlene. Also the spotting is normal during recovery – you may also get some light spotting each month if you still have your cervix too.

  24. Arlene says:

    I had a hysterectomy on the 15th Jan 2012 I have not been very lucky. After my op I bleed into my stomach (had an awful urinary tract infection) & ended up with a haematomer. My cervix remains intact & I have one ovary on my left side. I still have pain on both sides & have ended up with with scar tissue (endometrosis) & from time to time I spot red blood. I have been back & forward to the hospital/doctors & now, I have been advised by my doctor to make a diary (for the next six weeks) on my pain fresh hold. Once the six week ends (I will return to the doctor) to see what the next step is – hopefully I will have the endometrosis removed.
    Having sex is painful will I ever be pain free?

  25. maire says:

    Merry Christmas and a Peacefull and Happy a New Year xx

  26. It might be worth heading to your GP to get it checked out Marie.

  27. marie says:

    I had surgery sept 13 am doing well but i still get a pinch in my right side like something is tight it hurts still.

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